There are two types of people in this world: those who acknowledge and celebrate “Hallmark Holidays”, and those who spend so much time rebelling and bashing them that they end up becoming the most mushy and active participants.
The day isn’t about ridiculing couples, or drowning in so much Rose Wine or Vodka that you end up arguing with everyone who remotely or even subconsciously mentions a lovey-dovey note. It’s not about crying because you’re “alone” or because at this time last year you were still alone. Its not that.
Holidays have a way of evoking heavy hearted controversy — especially as to why they exist in the first place. The day that makes the flower vendors, Hallmark cards and chocolatiers very happy, although these have become the trademarks.
I know one man who is most pissed at the very thought of it; Pramod Mutalik who is symbolized by the Pink Chaddi Campaign. For the ones who don’t know, this man is against “Love”; Or a fragment of what he thinks of it in general. While his speeches about the “Vulgar Girl who meets a boy in jeans and drinks” (Gasp! Yes Indian girls do that) thoughts made news, people decided to raise their voices by sending his office 1000s shades of Pinkness Chaddis to teach him a lesson.
This day does not authenticate or validate the strength of a romantic relationship, so it shouldn’t shed shame on singledom, either. No amount of rose petals and candles on this night will supplement having a successful relationship the remaining 364 days of the year, and no amount of self-sabotage will make you any less single when you wake up on the 15th. This holiday does not hold any real power.
So if you’re single don’t turn this into a heavy metal, black nail polish type of day. Rise above your defensive instinct to tell the world you’re better off anyway and every couple is tacky and you hate them. Be cliché and make your other single friend your valentine (just please refrain from the annoying social media posts about it). Make your dog your valentine. Or, be selfish. Wine and dine yourself. Watch a movie: Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Sex and the City, American Psycho. Whatever puts a smile on your face. Spending time alone on this “holiday” is fine and healthy so long as you don’t use it as an excuse to weep that you are going to be alone forever.
And if you are in a relationship, enjoy your restaurant reservations and romantic gifts. Appreciate the gestures and the fact that you’re lucky to have someone special in your life. And, most importantly, remind yourself that although you’re in a relationship, you are and always will be the most important person to love. Not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day.