You watch your phone after every text you send, patiently waiting for those three small dots or the “last seen” of “typing…”, giving you a glimmer of hope he might respond. They appear for a second then stop. “Maybe he’s just busy,” you think, scrolling up to reread his sweet texts from last week for your own mental clarification that he’s interested.
You’ve clutched onto him harder than a brand new sticky bra. He’s always been a comfort, and you figure it’s just SO close to happening. However, the reality of the situation is this “potential” relationship was going to happen, it would’ve happened already. You know with time, a few random hookups, and a couple pints of Ben & Jerry’s, you can easily get over him.
The problem with The One Who Won’t Go Away is he’s never been enough of an asshole for you to completely cut him out of your life. In fact, he is a nice guy, and you can’t precisely pinpoint what it is that’s so horrible about him. After all, it’s just the small mistreatments — not answering a text here and there, canceling on the Netflix date last minute, and hiding behind the mask of “I’m busy.” While it may seem as though he hasn’t done anything douchey enough to qualify him as an asshole, you’ve been avoiding the fact that you’re actually unhappy with this treatment. And yes, you do deserve better.
As much as we thought waiting an hour before answering his texts would somehow make him “like us more,” that same demon Logic is telling us the only thing to do — cut him out completely. You tell yourself he loves you. You shouldn’t have to.
A good friend once told me “The worst part of the we-almost-dated relationships is not the fact that the person is out of your life. It’s the fact that you’re missing what you IMAGINED to be an opportunity at love.” Step back for a second and reflect: was the opportunity actually there? Or was it just you being human and wanting what you can’t have? That “connection” could be the result of the mind game he’s playing.
Think about it: how many times has your good friend Logic has already informed you he has commitment issues? Several, even though you pushed them away to think about planning your one year anniversary Instagram caption.
Go on the 21st century quest to erase him: delete him off Whatsapp so you can’t see his stories, unfollow him on Instagram, block him from your Facebook newsfeed, delete the old texts you reread to give you butterflies. If he won’t go away on his own, make him go away. You know it’s not going to happen, so stop wasting your time by trying. You deserve better.